Patience
Russians are certainly one of the most patient cultures. It
took centuries of abuse from their Czarist leaders before they chose
revolution. And nearly another century passed before they declared failure of
their communist experiment. Russians bear their long winters, perhaps not with
a smile, but certainly without complaint. While I, this fledging American with
no real understanding of the word “Winter,” am beyond impatient for Spring to
arrive. But in a country and in a city where incredible patience is demanded,
we have to embrace it in order to survive (or at least maintain sanity.)
Whether it’s enduring a three-hour Orthodox church service (where, of course,
you cannot sit but must stand), spending two hours in the post-office to simply
hand in your city registration forms, or riding the escalator for 5 minutes
just to enter the metro (because of course it is the deepest metro system in
the world), you spend a lot of time standing, waiting, thinking, watching.
Naturally, as an American, patience is not in my blood. From
fast food to fast cars, I come from a culture of right here - right now. So
when Natalie and I learned that the HIV orphanage we had arranged to work in
through Sunergos International was closing its doors to us, my thoughts weren’t
about patience and perseverance, but rather frustration at this closed society
that couldn’t seem to understand those who want simply to learn and serve (see my last
blog post for a full account of my rambling rant). Thankfully, my lack of
patience did not affect the determination of Sunergos International, who
followed up with the main doctor of the orphanage. Somehow (someway!) Natalie
and I will be allowed to visit the HIV orphanage to meet with this doctor. As
we seek to understand more about the situation of these children through
interviews with the doctor, we hope to forge a relationship that will allow us
to eventually volunteer on a regular basis with these HIV+ orphans. Until then,
we are waiting, thinking, watching and embracing patience!
Despite the delay in beginning our work in the orphanages,
my Russian life is anything but unengaged. From interning with E.V.A.,
volunteering at a local HIV+ kindergarten, taking Russian lessons and teaching
English, there is simply not enough time in the day (as evidenced by my lack of
blogging!) I feel this place is truly becoming home.
E.V.A.
Interning with E.V.A. has become the greatest piece of this
experience. From the work, the support and the community, I know that I am
glimpsing a unique and important part of Russian culture that I had previously
not seen. Their work with HIV+ women and children is practical, sustainable and
empowers community leaders around the country. I was fortunate enough to work
closely on a grant application through ViiV Healthcare (a UK pharmaceutical
company) with my co-worker that would expand E.V.A.’s reach and effectiveness.
Addressing prevention methods of mother-to-child HIV transmission, we are
working to help HIV+ pregnant women access the resources and support they need
to have a healthy pregnancy and not pass HIV onto their children. If you’re
anything like me, I though it was nearly impossible for an HIV+ women to give
birth to a healthy, HIV- child. But through simple practical methods, it’s not
only possible, but easily feasible. Women who adhere to their HIV treatment, give birth through
cesarean section and use milk-formula rather than breast-feeding, have an
extremely low likelihood of passing HIV to their child. But as many of these
women are drug users, lack education and/or don’t trust their physicians, many
children in Russia are unnecessarily infected. Through this grant, we seek to
increase the effectiveness of doctors, case managers, and AIDS centers in
finding these women and staying involved throughout their pregnancy process so
that they and their children can remain healthy.
The Kindergarten
I have also been volunteering 1-2 a week at a local
kindergarten/
children’s center for HIV+ children, or children affected by
HIV. This organization has a close relationship with EVA and the children of
many of our co-workers attend this kindergarten/children’s center. We spend an
hour teaching English to the children. This mostly consists of speaking
practice since the English learned in schools is purely reading and writing. The
second hour we spend time with the children, playing, talking, etc. While these
children are not orphans, they come with their own set of burdens. Whether they
are HIV+, have HIV+ parents, or live with their grandparents due to drug-using
or deceased parents, they desperately need a safe community and support. This
last Saturday we spent the afternoon at the children’s center celebrating
International Women’s Day. The grandmothers and mothers of the children had
their own celebration where they were able to relax, share life stories and
receive flowers and appreciation, while the children played games and enjoyed
way too many desserts. The highlight of the day: playing the game “Mafia” all
in Russian. The kids always thought Natalie and I were the Mafia, because we
were so quiet. Little did they know its because our Russian skills aren’t
totally up to par.
Life
Besides interning with EVA and Sunergos, and volunteering
with the children, I’ve been enjoying time studying, teaching and meeting new
people. I started Russian classes at the Saint Petersburg State Forestry
University about two weeks ago. It’s a rather small university, but between low
prices, flexible schedules, and small class sizes, it was a hard deal to pass
up. On the continued quest for fluency, investing in more academic Russian is
definitely worth it. I’m also teaching both group and private English lessons
3-4 times a week, which gives me a bit of extra pocket money. It’s also been a
great way to learn more about Russian culture and perspectives. Most of my
students have a strong foundation of English and just need a place to speak and
practice, so I ask endless questions about their life and country. And, of
course, I force them to be my friend and hang out with me on the weekends (I’m
only half joking). But truly, each day I meet more and more fascinating
Russians and international expats who make this place feel like home and make
any semblance of isolation vanish.
As I approach the three-month mark of being in Russia, I can
only say that each day is more wonderful than the last, and I can hardly soak up
all that I am learning. Warning: one year in Russia will most likely not be
enough for this wandering soul.
Gia, dad and I are so excited to step into your life, even if only for a few weeks this summer. We love you and are so incredibly proud of the daughter and person you are... We miss you but we know you are right where you are supposed to be...your life is being impacted as you make a difference, "where you are planted." We love you Gia.
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